August 16, 2025

Walking Through Our History: Tour of Williamsburg’s Slavery Past

On August 15, 2025, I chose to spend my birthday walking through the layers of truth buried in Colonial Williamsburg. I took the Williamsburg Slavery Tour to understand more about the lives of the enslaved people who built this land and the systems that profited from their labor.  These systems still impact us today.

This was our Tour Guide Lonnie Sanifer.  He as great, interesting, and very knowledgeable.
The Tour Begins: Windmill Farm and the Reality of Tobacco Labor

We began at the Windmill Farm, surrounded by corn stalks and a few tobacco plants. 

Our guide explained how tobacco had to be checked every day for worms. Enslaved people worked from sunup to sundown, cutting, curing, and rolling tobacco leaves into hogsheads holding up to 1,000 pounds. 

Each hogshead was tagged with a log number, similar to a checkbook entry. That number was sent to an agent in London to credit the landowner once the shipment arrived. These owners were often “cash poor” not because they lacked wealth, but because their entire economic system was built on unpaid labor.

A New World? Not Quite

America was called the “New World,” but the land was already inhabited. 

The first Europeans who came to Virginia were often indentured servants, usually contracted for seven years. This was vastly different from the hereditary, lifelong enslavement that would soon be imposed on Africans and their descendants.

By 1619, Africans arrived in Virginia, and by 1780, Williamsburg had become the capital. The city’s most notable streets were Duke of Gloucester, Nicholson, and Francis were laid by enslaved hands. Their stories live in the bricks, but their names are rarely told.

Slavery, Segregation, and Control

According to our guide, the treatment of enslaved people varied by decade and owner, but the regulation of Black lives remained constant:

  • 1619 to 1865: Slavery and slave codes

  • 1865 to 1960: Jim Crow

  • 1960 to 1980: Legal segregation

One law banned more than five Black people from gathering without a white person present. It wasn’t about safety. It was about control. If we couldn’t gather, we couldn’t organize. If we couldn’t organize, we couldn’t resist, but we did anyway.

Voices of Dissent

Some white men spoke against slavery, including Thomas Paine and Ben Franklin. Thomas Jefferson also did until around 1790, when he realized he could profit from breeding enslaved people in Virginia. At that point, his moral opposition faded. Breeding became cheaper than buying. Jefferson, like many others, shifted from philosopher to profiteer.

Convict Labor and Irish Servants

The tour guide discussed how Georgia began as a convict colony. The term “Irish slaves” came up, but these were actually indentured servants. While their treatment was often brutal, they had contracts and freedom dates. That’s not the same as chattel slavery, where you were property for life and so were your children.

Stories That Stood Out

  • Mary Stith was a white woman and spinster who died in 1816. She was one of the few people in Williamsburg documented as having freed enslaved individuals in her will and left them property. That act set her apart in a society where freedom was rare and inheritance for Black people even rarer.

  • Payton Randolph, one of Virginia’s wealthiest men and a cousin of Thomas Jefferson, enslaved at least 27 people.

  • Robert Carter III was one of the largest slaveholders in colonial America, eventually freed 501 people. He left the Church of England and later the Baptist Church, facing backlash for his decisions. His story is worth deeper study.

Erasure in the Name of Restoration

When Colonial Williamsburg was restored in the 1930s with Rockefeller’s money, new deed restrictions were put in place. These made it hard or impossible for Black families to buy property in the restored historic district, even though their ancestors had built the very streets being “preserved.”

Brick by Brick: My Reflections

We walked down Duke of Gloucester Street and visited historic homes. One house still had the original bricks, some imprinted with the fingerprints of the enslaved people who made them. That image stayed with me. We weren’t just tourists we were walking through sacred ground.

The two imprints are said to be made from the fingers of someone enslaved who made the brick.

I asked the guide if other tours in Williamsburg talk about the role of slavery. He said it depends on the guide. But with over 51 percent of Williamsburg’s population once enslaved, you can’t tell this town’s story honestly without talking about them.

The Uncomfortable Truth

This is our land. We cultivated it. We built it. Yet we’ve been written out of its history. Even the church found ways to profit, taxing homes with slaves over 16 years old. This wasn’t to discourage slavery it was to benefit from it.

Slavery wasn’t just a Southern issue it was a national economy. It was a system of control, of wealth, of spiritual theft. That system hasn’t ended it has just changed form.

Why This Matters for The Black Folder Project

The Black Folder Project is about legacy, remembering what’s been hidden and reclaiming what’s been lost. This tour reminded me that we must continue telling the truth, even when others try to bury it. You'll see the photos I took, especially of the old trees. They’ve stood for hundreds of years, silent witnesses to everything.

We are not just descendants of survivors. We are descendants of builders, visionaries, and fighters. The story of Williamsburg is our story. And we have the right to tell it.

This is the sign into the Visitors Center to get your tickets, you don't have to go here there is a ticket house on Duke of Gloucester Street.  It's not as glamorous but more convenient.


Saw this Masonic Temple Building on my way back to my car

Went to the court house to see how that was run...just like now...unfair to black people 


Visited the Governor Mansion - It was boring to me.  It was like they tried too hard but didn't bring it to life really. 

Entrance to the Governor's Mansion. Reimagined how they think it looked. Again boring to me. 
Picture of Queen Charlotte that is in the Governor's Mansion

The carriage rides are the highlight.  All I saw was people still thinking they are better than others. You even had some people (ADULTS) riding in the wagons WAVING at us walking. Some form of disgusting to me. 



July 23, 2025

Tell Your Story Before You're Gone

Last week, I had the privilege of attending the Hampton Storytelling Festival, and it stirred something deep in me.

It was more than entertainment. It was a soul revival.

People from all walks of life stepped up to the mic to share their truth. Their humor. Their heartbreak. Their journey. And somewhere in the listening, I found a piece of myself again.

This WHRO article captured the heart of the festival beautifully:
Artists showcase heart and humor at Hampton Storytelling Festival – WHRO


The Power of Story

We all have a story. Whether we whisper it, write it, or live it loudly, it matters.

Your story may not be perfect. It may be messy, unfinished, or hard to tell. But that does not make it any less valuable.

One thing I walked away with is this: If you don’t tell your story, who will?

Not just the highlights, not just the struggles, but the moments in between. The quiet strength. The unspoken hope. The chapters you are still trying to write.


May 28, 2025

Take It Early, Take Control: Why Waiting To Take Social Security Might Not Be the Best Move

Everyone’s heard it: “Wait until 70 to take Social Security so you’ll get a bigger check!”

That sounds good in theory, but let’s be honest: no one knows how long they’ll live, and the Social


Security system may not even look the same five or ten years from now.

So here’s the smarter question:
Why give up over $100,000 between ages 67 and 70 in hopes that you’ll live long enough to "make it back"?

Here’s why taking Social Security at 67 (or even earlier) might be the better move:

1. You’re here now.
We can't predict the future, but we know we’re alive today. Starting benefits at 67 guarantees income while you're still healthy enough to enjoy it.

2. You can save it or invest it.
If you don’t need the money right away, that’s even better. You can save those checks, invest them, or use them strategically. If something unexpected happens, your family can inherit what you saved. With Social Security, once you're gone, the checks stop.

3. Waiting is a gamble.
Yes, your monthly benefit grows if you wait, but it typically takes until age 82 or 83 to "break even" and come out ahead. That assumes you live that long but not everyone does.

4. The system is under pressure.
Social Security’s trust fund is expected to be partially depleted in the early 2030s. If that happens, benefits may be reduced by as much as 25%. That means waiting could actually backfire.

5. You’ve earned the right to choose.
This isn’t just about maximizing a government benefit. It’s about minimizing regret, taking control of your money, and building a legacy your family can benefit from.

Final thought

You’ve spent decades paying into the system. Taking your benefits earlier doesn’t mean you're leaving money on the table it means you’re putting yourself first. The longer you wait, the more you leave up to chance.


April 4, 2025

When the Future Is Uncertain, Organize What You Can


Life has always been full of surprises, but in today’s world—where health crises, job instability, and social changes are all around us—the idea of “getting your house in order” isn’t just good advice... it’s 
essential.

This post is about why organizing your personal affairs is a powerful act of self-respect, love, and clarity—and when you should start (hint: it’s now).


Why Organize Your Personal Affairs?

Reason Why It Matters
Uncertainty is constant You don’t know when a crisis will come—being prepared reduces stress and confusion
No one else will do it for you Loved ones shouldn’t be left guessing about your wishes
It brings peace of mind You feel more grounded when your affairs are in order
It’s an act of love Your family won’t have to scramble to make tough decisions
It helps you live with intention Organizing your life forces you to reflect on what matters most

When Should You Start?

NOW.

We wait for a better time, but the truth is:

  • Should you do it before retirement? Yes.
  • While you’re healthy? Absolutely.
  • After a major life event (divorce, death, diagnosis)? Also yes, but don’t wait for that wake-up call.

Don’t wait for a crisis to start caring about your values, your time, or your legacy.


March 16, 2025

Creating A Will

 ​Creating a will is a vital step in ensuring that your assets are distributed according to your wishes and that your loved ones are taken care of after your passing. While consulting an attorney is advisable for complex estates, many individuals can draft a simple will on their own using available resources. Here's a step-by-step guide to help you through the process:


1. Decide How You'll Write Your Will

There are several methods to create a will:

  • Hire an Attorney: For complex estates or specific legal concerns, consulting an estate planning attorney is recommended.
  • Online Will-Making Services: Platforms like LegalZoom and FreeWill offer guided templates to create legally binding wills.
  • Do-It-Yourself (DIY): With the right resources, you can draft your own will. Ensure it complies with state laws to be considered valid.

December 29, 2024

Another Day, Another Week, Another Year

Today, I am celebrating five years breast cancer free! It feels like a gift wrapped in resilience and hope. The results of my latest mammogram came back clear, and I am grateful. 


Breast cancer is a chapter in my life that taught me to cherish each day and live to the fullest. The treatments and uncertainty are now behind me, replaced by a sense of gratitude for the life I have today. 

For anyone currently battling breast cancer or who has come out the other side, I want to tell you this: you can move forward. You can live without that nagging worry of going back through “cancer stuff" (at least until the next check-up).

Looking Ahead: A Healthier and Kinder Me

July 3, 2024

Brent Simpson CMPD Officer an Exceptional Human Being

When I logged into Facebook to look at E2M Fitness information I saw the below post from CMPD about Brent:  


I worked with Brent at the CMPD training academy for many years. He was such an exceptional human being. He was one of those people that you KNOW when you meet them that you are blessed to have run across their path in this earthly journey. 

In 2012 when I started doing art/pyrography  I sat up a table at a Cornelius art show and Brent and his girlfriend Gina saw me and stopped by my table.  I was just starting the craft, enjoyed doing it but it was a work in progress. Below is the piece that Brent brought from me that day (it is not totally finished here...): 



May 13, 2024

"Made Up" Holidays

 Even before COVID I was over these "made-up" holidays.  

Mother's Day, Father's Day, Memorial Day, Thanksgiving, even Christmas

During COVID I thought finally others will see that every day we should appreciate each other, remember lost loved ones, be grateful and give gifts to those we love. 

Nope.  Here we are with another year of the nonsense. 


Mother's Day just passed and you are suppose to what? take your mother out to eat? buy a card? buy a gift? buy flowers?  All of those things are nice to get and even nice to give but you don't and shouldn't wait for a made-up day to do any of these things. 

I don't like seeing the stress people are under to pretend like these days are special.  They are just plain stressful and filled with buying stuff. 

Just appreciate each other every day and don't get stressed out on these made-up days. 


December 20, 2023

Skip To The Car


 Another year. "Oh Please Let Me Live Another Year Without Cancer."

Another Mammogram.

Another time to hold your breath and now breathe.

Another wait for the test results. 

Another year I got to skip to the car! (Actually I skipped half-way to the car because I didn't get the results while I was still there.  They changed me from diagnostic mammograms to screening mammograms...so it's not as intense.)

I decided; even though I didn't know FOR SURE there wasn't anything found; to still skip to the car.  I'm glad I did because by the time I got back home they had the test results on MYchart. 

Beautiful.

Grateful.

Thankful. 

Joyful. 

Skip to the Car! Skip throughout your life. Just Skip!!!

February 15, 2023

Having A Black Folder Is Needed Today More Than Ever

I can understand why people are afraid to talk about death, theirs or anyone else's.

It's not a pleasant topic.  

It's scary to think we will not exist or that our loved ones will no longer be with us.  But after COVID-19 and many dying at the hands of guns just going through normal life activities we must confront it. 

Many people think just talking about death brings it on. 


I understand that fear. It makes sense.

Having a Black Folder is about understanding one day you will not be here and starting from that day you create your black folder jump starts honing in on the legacy you want to leave behind...for your family...for the world. 

Yes, it is scary but think of the alternative...not facing the inevitable, leaving your family unprepared and not working towards living a life well-lived.  

 The Black Folder Project helps individuals and families have a step-by-step plan to end of life planning. 




December 14, 2022

Hold Your Breath

 Hold Your Breath...

This is what they tell you when they take the mammogram image.

Breathe...

This is what they tell you after they take the image.

Hold Your Breath takes on a new meaning when you go in for a diagnostic mammogram after having breast cancer. They take image after image.  They take magnifying images.  They show those images to the radiologist to review while you are there waiting.  They want to know if they need to take more images.  They need to know if they need to do a ultrasound.  All of those things mean that the radiologist has seen something that's concerning and your cancer may have returned. 

Each year this is the hardest 15 minutes of waiting of my life. 

  • 15 minutes to wonder if I can go on living without cancer treatment. 
  • 15 minutes to wonder if I can go on with "my life plans" or if as my mother put it..."you can't run God's program"...does God have other ideas for my life...you know like time's up.  
  • 15 minutes praying they don't find anything.
  • 15 minutes of...holding your breath.

I promised myself if I could walk out of there without them finding anything that I would skip to the car. 

I got to skip to the car today!  

Another year to be grateful for still being alive, doing what God wants me to do, and being kind to all that  cross my path. 

 


October 10, 2022

Coming Full Circle with a Synchronistic Moment

This month I came full circle and had a synchronistic moment. 

It was my first day manning the United Healthcare Medicare kiosk in Walgreens.

Many of my previous “jobs” and experiences came into place:

-         NC Credit Union – Setting up booths and tables to market the Credit Union, greeting the public and answering questions

-         VA Credit Union – Creating and teaching a robbery training class…it was a public place and anything can happen

-         -NC Police Department – Keeping my head on a swivel and paying attention even if it looked like I wasn’t paying attention

-         VA and NC Art Shows– Setting up for art shows, greeting and talking to people


A gentleman walked in who was about 35-40 years old, dressed in a nice pair of jeans, a shirt (don’t remember the color), some copper-colored tennis shoes and a hat with the same copper color in the initials on the cap.  He said hello and I responded back.  

I then noticed him in the check-out line which had grown to about 4-5 people.  I don’t remember what he purchased but heard him ask about the flowers and the cashier saying they were for Breast Cancer Month.  He picked up a bunch and continued to wait in line. I thought how nice and thoughtful that was of him to get them for someone who had been through or going through breast cancer. 


August 30, 2022

Another One Gone To Soon - Hollis G. Mason

Another one of my son’s high school friends was murdered. 

He was in town for their 20-year high school reunion.

He went to get some food and someone came up to him and killed him. Shot him while his daughter and family waited for the food to come, instead they got the unthinkable that he wasn’t coming back home, he was not ever coming back home because someone had decided to play God as my son said.


So here I sit, in a different place than the last time this happened to one of his high school friends. I have the black folder project (may need to update the booklet, but I have it and can roll with it) but now I also can provide life insurance if someone needs it…and everyone needs it.

Somehow my heart feels like it is on the floor outside of my body.  It feels kind of hard to breath. Every mother knows this feeling.  At least every “so called black” mother does (another day for why I put so called black in quotes).  It is heart wrenching.  It is not your child but you feel some level of anguish for the mother of that child.   It is just heart wrenching. 

June 3, 2022

As I Sit Quietly, Watching The World

 Water Lapping

Wind Blowing

Kids Laughing

Lawn Mowers Mowing

Bushes Waving

Hearts Pounding

Sun Setting

Birds Flying

Pages Ruffling

Lips Smiling

Remember You Are STILL Dying

 You can't go through life thinking about cancer returning

There is no cancer 

Remember when cancer was the answer? 

Remember when you thought you were dying? 

Remember that you are STILL dying

Just because you "beat" cancer doesn't mean you are not STILL dying

Everyday you wake up and go to sleep you are dying over and over again

February 5, 2022

Beautiful Scars

How many scars do you have? I have too many to count. 

Consider your scars beautiful. Wear them proud like a tattoo.

 Listen to Merry Clayton about how to endure. 

Article about Merry's Accident and This Song



If you don't know who Merry Clayton is...listen to this!!!





January 30, 2022

Meditation and the Death of Thich Nhat Hanh

 Thich Nhat Hanh the Zen master, Vietnamese Buddhist Monk, teacher, author and poet died on January 22, 2022.  

This hit me hard. 


I learned to love his books and mindfulness movement. 

I learned how to do walking meditation by reading his book.

I looked for and found a sangha when I lived in Charlotte. 


October 27, 2021

The Insurance Industry and Agents

 I am astonished, almost to the point of being amazed. Let me explain. 

After you past the insurance test and get licensed in the state you past the test, that is the end. 

Everything is radio silence, UNLESS you were doing this to work as a captive agent.  

A captive agent means that you work FOR an insurance company...like Allstate.  A JOB. 

If you are doing this to be "uncaptive" or a "broker" to represent several insurance companies then nothing, you are totally on your own to figure it out. 

As I was studying for my license the topic/type of insurance that interested me the most was for eldery - Medicare.  I also certainly have an interest in Cancer Insurance (I know the importance of it) and Life Insurance, but when I looked at where to start it seemed to me that everyone turning 65 will need Medicare so you have people who actually need the insurance. 

August 14, 2021

Annuities, Life and Health Insurance

Over the past 2 YEARS (that's right I said years)  I have been leisurely studying the VA laws and statues about life insurance, health insurance and annuities.  It has been fastinating and I learned a lot. 

Well at about the 1.5 year mark I decided to study to become licensed in VA.  I spent many many weekends studying and took the State test last month and passed it.  It was interesting because the more I studied the more there was to study.  When I took the test it was a hog pog of questions many I knew, some I didn't but none the less I passed.  I will say that you have to study to pass, it wasn't easy, but why would it be because you're dealing with money so they are going to make it a little hard. 


After I passed the test you have to apply for your license.  Completing the license was an interesting process as well. I understood not wanting people who have a criminal record to be able to become licensed but didn't know they cared if you owned child support.  That seemed strange to me, almost like they were trying to eliminate certain people from being licensed.  It made me want to run for office, work on understanding and changing laws.  It's all so crazy to me. Anyway went through the license application and then went to get my fingerprints. 

January 23, 2021